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I Spent 30 Years Watching Elite Performers Destroy Themselves With the Same Five Patterns

 
 

My first clue that something was wrong came at Chelsea FC.

I was working with a world-class footballer - one of the best in the game. We were doing a routine postural assessment. He stood on sensitive scales, one foot at a time.

8kg weight discrepancy between his feet.

The medical team gathered around, each proposing mechanical solutions. Neck adjustment. Leg length correction. Maybe an injection.

But something told me there was more to this.

I asked him a question that changed everything: "What's the best sex you've ever had?"

His eyes lit up. He grinned. As he accessed that positive memory, I watched the scales.

Perfectly balanced. The 8kg discrepancy vanished.

Then I did the opposite. Asked him to recall the worst moment of his life. His smile disappeared. The room went cold.

9kg imbalance. Worse than before.

A thought - just a thought - had instantly changed his physical reality. Measurable. Undeniable. Right there on the scales.

The medical team's eyes glazed over. What they'd witnessed didn't fit their model of reality, so they rejected it.

But I couldn't unsee what I'd seen.

 
 

That moment at Chelsea was just the beginning.

Over the next 20 years - working with Premier League footballers, Barcelona players, Olympic athletes, billionaire CEOs, and hundreds of others - I kept seeing the same thing:

Elite performers systematically destroying themselves with invisible patterns.

The fighter who couldn't stop fighting (even when cancer demanded surrender).

The perfectionist whose body broke down from chronic stress.

The hypervigilant parent exhausted from constant surveillance.

All running the same five patterns. All suffering in eerily similar ways.

But here's what fascinated me most: these patterns weren't random. They were survival programs - brilliant strategies created by terrified children trying to figure out how to stay safe and be loved.

The problem? Those strategies were still running decades later, now destroying the very people they were designed to protect.

 
 
 

After mapping thousands of sessions, I discovered something profound:

All human suffering reduces to five binary patterns - five "hamster wheels" that people run on:

1. Gain/Loss (the achievement addiction)

2. Able/Unable (the competence death spiral)

3. Right/Wrong (the perfectionist's prison)

4. Support/Let Down (the relational trap)

5. Attention/Ignore (the visibility paradox)

Each wheel traces back to childhood disconnect - the moment when love, belonging, and connection weren't fully met, and a brilliant child concluded: "If I become valuable enough, I'll finally deserve what I need."

But value isn't love. Achievement isn't connection. No amount of grinding on these wheels will ever fill that hole.

The only way out? Observation with compassion.

When you can see the wheel spinning without stepping onto it - when you can recognize the brilliant four-year-old who created it and offer them what they actually needed - the programming dissolves.

Not through fighting. Not through fixing. Through conscious recognition.

 
 
 
 

I've spent three decades in this work:

- 5 years at Chelsea FC (Premier League)

- 3 years at Barcelona FC (La Liga)

- Thousands of hours with Olympic athletes, professional dancers, CEOs, and families trapped in generational patterns

- Trained under Dr. Kam Yuen in energetic diagnosis

- Studied Krishnamurti's observation methods for dissolving mental programming

- Researched Morley Robbins' work on mineral depletion and how hamster wheels literally drain your body's battery

This isn't theory. It's pattern recognition earned through 30 years of watching what actually works.

 

What makes my approach different is integration.

Most therapists work on the mind. Most doctors work on the body. But they're not separate systems - your body faithfully executes mental programs.

True healing requires both:

- Software debugging (observing the hamster wheels)

- Hardware repair (restoring your mineral foundation)

When you debug childhood programming AND recharge your physical battery, everything changes: energy returns, relationships deepen, the body heals, and life stops feeling like a rigged game you're desperately trying to win.

 

Today I help people through:

- One-on-one debugging sessions (where I map your specific wheel and show you how to step off)

- My book "Glitch: The Hidden Code Running Your Life (And How to Debug It)"

- Daily emails on pattern recognition and observation practices

- Family systems work (because programming spreads generationally)

I live in Portugal with my wife Sylvia and daughters Lima and Bo - the most valuable things in my life, and the daily reminder that this work matters beyond achievement or success.

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