Rob Brinded · Debugging the Mind
No matter what I do, it’s never enough.
There’s always too much to do and never any time for you. You can’t stop, and when you do, you feel guilty. That isn’t who you are. It’s a hamster wheel, and it’s been turning since you were a child.
Three decades in elite sport and performance, including five seasons at Chelsea FC and three at FC Barcelona.
It isn’t a rut. It’s a wheel.
You’re the one everyone relies on. You hand something over to take the pressure off, they let you down, and it’s back to just you. Or you get close to the top, then quit, crash or walk away.
None of that is a character flaw. It’s a hamster wheel: a loop you were put on as a kid to keep you safe. Back then it was the right move. Now it runs your decisions and relationships without asking.
Your quiz showed your side. Here’s what it means.
Every wheel has two sides. Under pressure, you either push harder or pull back.
Right-sider
Always on. Driving full speed. Can’t switch off.
Left-sider
Holding everyone up. Saying yes. Nothing left for you.
Haven’t done the quiz? Find your side in 2 minutes
Which words keep coming back?
Gain/Loss. Support/Let Down. Right/Wrong. Pay Attention To/Ignore. Able/Unable. Five pairs of words that show up underneath very different lives.
When you’re caught in one, you’re in Player Mode. The moment you can see which one it is, and know it’s just an old script, it starts to lose its grip. I call that Admin Mode. Helping you get there is what I mean by debugging the mind.
“This isn’t magic. It’s energetics. It’s biology and behaviour and pattern all meeting in one place.”
Dr Karen Darke MBE, Paralympic gold medallist, from her foreword to Glitch
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Not another strategy. A chance to see it.
You’ve done the journaling, the planning, the books, maybe the retreats. If you’ve done the work and you’re still here, the work was aimed at the wrong thing.
Willpower doesn’t reach it. Positive thinking doesn’t reach it. Analysing it isn’t the same as watching it happen.
In a session, you talk. I listen for the repeating words and draw the wheel on a whiteboard. We work with what’s happening now, not a better story about why you should be different.
The details
- Format: One-to-one on Zoom
- Length: 50 to 60 minutes
- Cost: £275 per session
- How to book: email support@robbrinded.com and share what’s on your mind and the support you need.
Rob is a professional mind-body specialist and not a doctor. His sessions are not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
Questions
What happens in a session?
You talk about what’s going on. I listen for the words that keep repeating and draw the wheel on a whiteboard, so you can see it running. We work with what’s happening now.
Is it online or in person?
Online, one-to-one on Zoom, so you can join from anywhere.
How long is a session and what does it cost?
Each session runs 50 to 60 minutes and costs £275.
How is this different from other coaching?
Willpower and positive thinking don’t reach the wheel. Seeing it does. We don’t build a better story about why you should be different. We watch what’s actually happening.
How do I book?
Email support@robbrinded.com and share what’s on your mind and the support you need.
Let’s catch the wheel spinning.
Not ready yet? Find your side: take the quiz