1:1 coaching with Rob Brinded
You hold everyone up. Who’s holding you?
There’s always too much to do and never any time for you. You can’t stop, and when you do, you feel guilty. That isn’t who you are. It’s a hamster wheel, and it’s been turning since you were a child.
Three decades in elite sport and performance, including five seasons at Chelsea FC and three at FC Barcelona.
It isn’t a rut. It’s a wheel.
You’re the one everyone relies on. You handed something over to take the pressure off. They let you down. So now it’s back to just you. Or you get close to the top, then quit, crash or walk away.
None of that is a character flaw. It’s a hamster wheel: a loop you were put on as a kid, to keep you safe. Back then it was the right move. Now it runs your decisions and relationships without asking.
Which words keep coming back?
Gain/Loss. Able/Unable. Right/Wrong. Support/Let Down. Attention/Ignore. Five pairs of words that show up underneath very different lives.
The moment you can see which one it is – and know it’s just an old script – it starts to lose its grip. I call that Admin Mode.
Try this: think of the last situation that got under your skin. Finish the sentence “What I couldn’t stand was feeling…” Don’t polish the answer. Notice whether it points to one of those five pairs.
“This isn’t magic. It’s energetics. It’s biology and behaviour and pattern all meeting in one place.”
Dr Karen Darke MBE, Paralympic gold medallist, from her foreword to Glitch
Not another strategy. A chance to see it.
You’ve done the journaling, the planning, the books, maybe the retreats. If you’ve done the work and you’re still here, the work was aimed at the wrong thing.
Willpower doesn’t reach it. Positive thinking doesn’t reach it. Analysing it isn’t the same as watching it happen.
In a session, you talk. I listen for the repeating words and draw the wheel on a whiteboard. We work with what is happening now, not a better story about why you should be different.
There’s a way in at your pace.
Ready to look at the situation with me? Coaching is the direct route. Want to get your bearings first? The quiz gives you a starting point; the free Admin Mode Blueprint course helps you understand the wheels and see where you are.
Prefer a book beside you? Explore Glitch — then bring what you notice into a session.
Let’s catch the wheel spinning.
Prefer to explore first? Take the quiz, then Start the free course.